Archive for March, 2008

The Street

Thursday, March 20th, 2008

 I
was at the bank last night wanting to withdraw some money. There i
saw a man, sleeping on the five-foot way, faced down to the floor.
Packets of tissue were in front of him, little  plastic bag of
belongings beside him, prosthetic leg stood at the side, crutches
proped to the wall, and packet of rice at the side. I looked at
him…..

Have
you ever wonder why are there people living in the streets?

When
i was younger, once in a while, i would drop some coins or notes into
a begger’s cup. Be it old, crippled, blind, mother and child and so
on…. that was out of sympathy that i did it. Sympathy.

Then
came a time, where i had empathy. Trying to think what it’d be like
to be in their shoes.

Few
years ago i joined some friends to street feeding programme in the
city. The people that i saw there were of varied kinds. Some were
like my grandma’s age, some middle age, and some young ones, prolly
around my age. They would come every saturday for the free food given
out, medical care and the fellowship. As i helped to hand out the
food, i remember feeling sad. I was sad at the young people that i
saw. I was thinking what in the world were the young people living in
street?! Don’t they feel ashamed that i had to hand out food to
them?! They have hands and feets which could work!

Few
years ago, the media started covering stories on ‘beggers’ living in
the streets. One reporter even went undercover, pretended to be a
begger. If i remembered correctly, he collected quite a sum of money
from begging generous Malaysians. Then there were stories where they
were controlled by syndicates who forced them into begging. There
were also real stories where these people are drug addicts.

Few
years ago, i would have easily sympathize and empathize. Yesterday, i
was angry…..i was angry seeing a man sleeping in the streets of
Subang!

While
withdrawing money, i was thinking and asking God what should i do. I
could have harden my heart and think that that guy sleeping in the
street prolly earned more than me milking money out of generous
Malaysians. I got into the car, still asking God if i should do
anything. I really wanted to have driven home.

Jesus
said when you do unto the least of these, you are doing unto me.
Sometimes its hard to wrestle with convictions so i made a turn back
to the man.

I
went to him. He was asleep, i had to wake him up. He jumped and sat
up straight when i said i wanted to buy tissue. I asked him why was
he sleeping in the street. I asked him to go home. I asked him if he
has eaten. I asked him to go home. I asked him to get help from
welfare department. I asked him to go home. I asked him not to sleep
on the five-foot way. I asked him to go home.

He told me he hasn’t been home in 10 years. Used to stay in Sunway,
brother kicked him out of house. Have been living in the street for
10 years. People shoos him away and scolds him. He has eaten dinner.
He hasn’t been home for 10 years.

Throughout
that few minutes, i dunno what went through his head. I told him i’ve
seen him before few years ealier sleeping on the street. Never had
the guts then to confront, yesterday i was just angry to see him
still sleeping in the street. I told him to go home. I told him to go
home. I just told him to go home. Sigh! He had alcohol breathe.

I
find it really ironic, Subang a highly developed residential and
commercial area, also an education hub. People here are mostly
educated, living in the middle income bracket. And yet, there are
still people living in the street!

When
he realized that i wasn’t sympathizing with his sob story, and that i
was serious about him going back home, he wanted to give me change
for the purchase of the tissue paper. I told him to go home.

As
i was driving home, i was just thinking and asking what would Jesus
do?

Adulthood

Friday, March 7th, 2008

When
do you start to realize that you are an adult? A grown up?

 

Late
last year i was reminising my school days a lot. I miss those
carefree Convent days a lot. I had pangs of  nostalgia, i had wanted
to live in those moments again. The days of going to tuitions with
friends, staying back at school, doing different projects, having
different parties and going for inter school events. Those days were
fun! We’d chatted, giggled, poked fun, talked about future, checking
out guys. Sometimes we fought, cried, get petty…. i miss those
days!

 

You
know how when you are in school, some adults will tell you that it is
the best day of your life? I had one uncle telling me that, even the
Lat’s comic says so! But when you are at school, you’d think they
must be joking when they say “student days” are the best. Who
would ever says being a student, having exams and test and homeworks
are the best days of their life? I thought it was a joke at that
time. These grown ups don’t know what they are talking about.

 

Anyway,
coming to the present time… next year will be the 10th
year i’ve graduated from high school. I never really realized i’ll
come to this day, coming to reflect the milestone of it.

 

Journey
out of high school was not easy, in fact it was really challeging.
Lots of things changed. I’m no longer in Muar, my friends are all
scattered living and pursuing their own lifes. College days, tho i
had good times with my college buddies, movies and hanging out, there
were also culture shocks and depressing moments. But even then, those
were the days when i found JESUS, my GOD. (made me wished i’d known
HIM earlier)

 

After
four years of higher education, its off to the working world. The
real world….. this is life itself…. wat you choose it to be.

 

Trying
to calculate, i think i’ve prolly worked four years? And its only
FOUR years!!! Imagine the many more ahead…. gosh! Its daunting!
It’s gonna be the rest of my life till i retire at 70 maybe? =)

 

Anyway,
what i wanna say is, its true. Its true what they said. “Student
days” are the best days of life. I find that so very true, very
very true. I am even starting to tell my student friends. Being an
aunty now… -_-” working friends, i don’t think i need to
elaborate.

 

So,
when did i realized i’m a grown up? =) it dawned unto me when i could
just go ahead with last minute planned road trips. Having the
independence, knowing i’m capable to making the right decisions in
life, knowing that i am acocuntable, knowing that i could be trusted,
knowing that i could take care of myself. It suddenly made me realize
i don’t need my mommy to do what i need to do. You know?

 

So
yeah, being a 25 year old now, i’ve finally come to accept that i am
an adult. Its not too early, its not too late. =D